小贝辩论会观后感

小贝辩论会观后感


        前两天看了非正一期节目，其中提案环节因Dylan和小贝因意见相左，引发了一场争论。提案内容是“社交媒体上该不该有小号”。
        因为时间有限，所以节目录播中无法满足两人充分表达的愿望，但在节目组建议下两人最后私下Vlog约辩。节目看完后特地搜了一下看了完整视频，看完觉得辩题普通，但是Dylan讨论的角度真的很新，最后上升到一个很高的思想境界，感觉超棒。



两人观点大致如下



小贝：需要

     观点：因为人都会犯错，大多数人无法承担犯错代价，因此小号是个相对安全区域，是降低犯错代价的防护措施。社交中需要以小号来达到过滤目的，对不同圈子的人说不同的话，即小号是作为“千人千面”、“以退为进”的手段。


Dylan：不需要

     观点：
      1.人应该“真诚”、“表里如一”。真实、完整的展示自己，不仅能帮助自己更好的了解自我，也能让自己和身边的人更自在、舒适。
      2.社会是包容的，人要自己接受不完美、有特殊爱好、不一样的自己，社会才能包容你。承认和正视自己是让社会包容自己的第一步，而小号会阻止这个（扩大社会包容性的）趋势。
      3.改变社会是每个人的责任，人应该以个人勇敢发声，担当社会变革责任，扩大社会的包容性。

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看完后的感受

01

立论观点背后，折射的是不同社会阶层犯错成本的区别
      辩论中小贝很强调“犯错”、“代价”、“安全”；而Dylan几乎不提，相反他强调“自我”、“责任”。如果熟悉节目的人会知道Dylan出生金融从业家庭，21岁牛津顶尖PPE专业毕业，从事投行工作（毕业实习工资就月薪7万），算上位阶层。阶层不同，对同样的问题，观点、态度不同。归结原因是阶层背后双方承担风险能力不同，上位阶级有足够的资本允许试错、犯错，但中下层不行。记得一期节目中陈铭也曾说过，社会中中产阶级是最焦虑的，因为一方面希望通过努力进入上层，但另一方面又害怕可能会因为不小心可能就滑入了下层。因此，我觉得两人观点区别，本质是阶层现状区别。
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逻辑和自信
两段对话感受一下：

对话一
        当小贝说担心自己身份有某些地方是主流社会不接受，需要一个小小的空间，在可控的范围内去探索这个身份，然后才愿意把这个放在公开的这个事件当中。Dylan马上反驳说“你不应该按照别人能接受什么而来调整自己的身份，你自己的身份应该来自于你自己，而不是来自于别人。”

对话二
     小贝：Well Dylan I think you possess some great points,However some points of you’re pressenting are coming from a very privileged standpoint with society.Because you’re assuming that the ideas you hold and the personality that you adopted is something that is accepted by society large,Whereas that’s not something everyone can do under a lot of circumstances.There are things that you need to work out yourself in a private space or in an anonymous space, then you can thenefore work out where boundaries of your personality are,so you can then more genuinely express yourself in a public from,so you can then be more genuine and people can be more comfortable around you .
       Dylan:OK， actually I understand that.I can see to the point there are certain aspects of certain people’s persona that wouldn’t be accepted by society.The question I post to you is if the people who wouldn’t be accepted by society don’t express themselves fully to society now,the potential negative benefits is that society is not gonna move forwards.Because I believe that everyone should be accepted right.For who they are and what they wanna be.And I agree with you in the sense that that’s not currently what our society is,But we won’t even be able to get there unless there people staring to express themselves,unless people who have ideas that aren’t accepted by society star expressing that directly to society,instead of conditioning themselves into society group think and just progressing what is the mainstream thought forwards.
        另外，除了Dylan，节目中第五期法国常驻代表阮奕信也带领导者自信光环。在一期节目里他谈到“全球领导力”，大左开玩笑的问他为什么你也要学习全球领导力？以后是想当法国总统吗？阮奕信思考了一下，回答说“有可能”。听了阮的回答，大左玩笑似的笑了笑，但从阮的表情、眼神看出他是认真的在回答这个问题。Dylan说过，两人来自一样的世界，有很多同样的经历，所以即使在较短的时间也能更快了解对方（阮奕信）是怎样的人。阮也说，他和Dylan的背景有很多相同的部分。自信可能是精英被培养出的必备品质。
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以改变社会为己任的价值观

    Dylan：I understand that point。I actually agree with you from the point of what is best for me as Xiaobei.But I think that you’re  looking at this from too narrow a perspective.Because if everyone  The reason why you’re comfortable with something now that you weren’t comfortable with 5 years ago ,the reason that you were not comfortable with 5 years ago is because the societal pressure.Because you’re afraid to ……（被对方打断）
    小贝：It’s not my responsibility to improve society.If it harms me in the current moment.,it’s all of our  responsibility to improve society
      Dylan：（反驳）I think it’s all of our  responsibility to improve society.
    小贝：（反驳）Because you are not gonna be harmed by doing this things.
    Dylan:(反驳)That’s not true.Because everyone who chose to improve in the past has taken harm upon themselves.So Rose Parks in America， right?The amount that she went though ,to no material benefit herself to create what ended up being a massive impact on at least American society.If not global society in terms of racial equality/ gender equality. 
     感觉完美诠释精英教育培养的是有当担、引领社会变革的人。

        当下的感受就是这样吧，写的不好，但我想在能写好之前更重要的是把自己想表达的充分表达出来。